It has really put a damper on our sex life.
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And then it hit me—that was manipulative. But dare I say I like it as much if not more than regular sex. Dear TEO, This is a great question. The manipulation wasn't even necessary, it was just so ingrained with the way I navigated the world. I thought it was consensual, but it wasn't really.
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With good washing, the anal area is as clean as any other well washed part of the body. I also feel like I do things I don't particularly love to do for my husband -- namely blowjobs -- to make him sexually happy. Whenever I feel the desire to have sex, it's usually because I want to make my partner happy in some way. And we used to have anal about twice a month when we were first together. He feels that my distaste for it is not based on my own feelings, but rather based upon media hype, social views etc.
Hates it. All they have to do is make chicken for one and make sure the other one has enough food to be called a meal. Too complicated or something. They contain extensive discussions of anal hygiene.
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I'm sick of the messages that tell us we should do it for our husbands, to make them happy. He will probably get pretty defensive, which is what happens when you invalidate people.
Is one of us being unfair? I love the guy.
I didn't know how to tell him. I have glimpses of that now, and it's pretty great, for both me and my husband.
Do i have to keep trying?
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Your husband xo being unfair to you when he invalidates your emotional and physical response, and when he expects your butt to respond the same way his does.
I've had sex because I wanted people to like me. Nothing is wrong with either of you.
What would you recommend in a situation like this? I'm kind of tired of it his obsession he wants it on his birthdays and once or twice a year. Telling a woman with a sore butt that the media is telling her not to have anal sex is not very loving.
He can read Wanting Sex Again to understand more about the link for women between security and sexual openness. Your husband sounds like he is pressuring you in a non-loving way. Our relationship otherwise is warm, loving, and full of healthy communication, but this topic makes me shut down, and thinking of my husband as the man who sometimes pesters me to sxe through this kind of pain on his behalf has done a lot of damage to my enjoyment of sex and intimacy in general.
Try telling him what you told me in a letter—it might make it easier for you to control your emotions, and he needs to understand how profoundly Likke and potentially dangerous this is for you.
My husband won’t try anal
It's too messy, he says. I didn't know how to consent. They tell kids to try new foods something like 10 times to see if you like it.
I've always been a huge fan of butt play -- dildos, fingers, vibrators. We tried five different lubes, so much d it that the towels protecting the bed had to be thrown out.
I want to never ever do this again or even hear him ask about it, suggest it, or joke about it. I expressed this to him and his reaction was unexpected. When I asked him about it he told me that he didn't like it, that it felt too planned, too much worrying about the clean-up, mostly because he can't come from anal, so we usually have vaginal sex after that but he has to clean his penis before we can do that. I always thought he was into it, too, until one day he said Likee to it.
My husband wants anal sex, it hurts, and now he’s upset with me
How to Introduce Sexual Experimentation. I've had sex because I didn't want my partner to be angry with me anymore. My husband is obsessed with anal sex. I entered relationships as a sexual object first and a human being second.